Category Archives: Relationships

“Woo Hoo!—I found my Grandparents.”

I recently discovered the identity of my maternal grandparents. My mother was adopted. She had never seen an image of her parents and was uncertain of their names. When the mystery of their identity was eventually solved and I viewed … Continue reading

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Adoption—Its Pub Weather Today

“When there are no lingering doubts in your mind and you are confident the outcome is certain there’s nothing to be lionhearted about.” Judith Land Its pub weather and I’m thinking about you and the thousands of other adoptees and … Continue reading

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Adoption—Parents who live vicariously

Vicariousness is a social phenomenon whereby a parent attempts to live out their own goals and accomplishments by chasing lost dreams and failed careers through their offspring. Living vicariously is a psychological form of possessiveness whereby an adult acts to … Continue reading

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Empathy is more than a simple act of kindness, sympathy, prayer, or pity

“Those who have walked in the shoes of another person, regardless of which side of the adoption triangle they are on, are often the ones who best understand the depth of emotion, pain, suffering, and state of mind that others … Continue reading

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“Adoption and Behavioral Foxhole Syndrome”

Some children still continue the historic tradition of hunkering down in a safe place to avoid unpleasant situations, predictable confrontation, and the emotional pain of reality. Adoptees suffering from “foxhole syndrome” believe that if they hide in a safe place and … Continue reading

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Adoption Detective—Judith Land Quotes

  Choices – Our lives are the sum of all the choices we make, the bridges we cross, and the ones we burn. Our souls cast long shadows over many people, even after we are gone. Orphans – Each personal … Continue reading

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Adoption—“Letting Go!”

Some adoptees are surrounded with a corona of emotional trauma—a dark ethereal haze that shields them from feeling the warmth of the sun, enjoying the vastness and awe of nature, and appreciating the vivid colors and hue of a golden … Continue reading

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