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The Homing Instinct

“The homing instinct for a child separated from its biological mother is like a steady and reliable compass needle that always points north.” Judith Land Maternal separation and a deep sense of loss are adoption’s core issues. Every adopted child … Continue reading

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Wire Monkey Mothers

“Poets, song-writers, and novelists responding to simple observations, sentiments, feelings, and emotions seem better able to describe the importance of maternal love than scientists, lawyers, and the cold-hearted money changers responsible for the fair and equitable distribution of adopted children.” … Continue reading

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Adoption is Paradoxical

“Some adoptees are full of internal tensions that seem irreconcilable. Their lives are paradoxical. They act like comedians on stage, making everyone around them laugh. Still, they are deeply internally conflicted and emotionally troubled.” Judith Land Truth is rarely pure … Continue reading

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Adoption is a Twist of Fate

“Giving a child up for adoption should never be like playing the Wheel of Fortune or the thrill provided by Russian roulette with a delicious cocktail in hand. Choice determines everything. Some parents treat life as a risky crapshoot. The … Continue reading

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Use the “Emotion Wheel” to get in Touch with Your Feelings

Judith Land is the author of the book “Adoption Detective: Memoir of an Adopted Child” a book that belongs in the Pantheon of Adoption Classics. Donna Montabano
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Adoption—What is a soliloquy?

“Have you ever talked to yourself when you assumed nobody was listening? That’s a soliloquy. Adoption is a topic fraught with emotions, feelings, personal conflicts, tension, suspense, uncertainty, fear, and drama that stimulates self-reflection. It’s a topic that stimulates deep … Continue reading

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Adoption Secrets

“The heart of a mother that abandons her child holds a sea of secrets, hiding in the dark like a vampire ready to jump out and bite you. Some family secrets are generations old and others newly created. Healthy families tend … Continue reading

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Adoption and Uncanny Dreams

“When I was a child I dreamed of my mother—a reoccurring vision of someone I was too young to recall. I didn’t even know her name. She was performing on stage, playing the violin in a symphony orchestra in Paris. … Continue reading

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Adoption—Transcendence is Key to a Better Life

“Transcendence refers to the very highest and most inclusive levels of human consciousness. Adoptees that learn to ‘transcend’ the limitations of conventional thinking and common obstacles of daily living are best able to overcome continuous dull pain to achieve good … Continue reading

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Adoption Stories

“In the mind of a writer, the protagonist of an adoption story is usually an isolated figure that brings a strong will to bear against great sufferings.” Judith Land  “Nobody writes books about silence and all the things that nobody … Continue reading

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