Monthly Archives: September 2013

Adoption—using an intermediary to contact the birth mother

“Deciding how to contact my birth mother presented a dilemma. She lived far away in another state. I had four choices—I could fly across the country and attempt to meet with her in person; I could call her on the … Continue reading

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“Dolls benefit orphaned, fostered and adopted children”

There are many developmental benefits of role playing with dolls for adopted children. Dolls are most often used as a toy for entertaining children, but they also have a high value for teaching, and in children’s education for grasping concepts … Continue reading

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“Adoption—prayers really do come true”

Spending our wedding anniversary in Vail, Colorado, was stupendous. Following an exciting round of golf at Vail Country Club, surrounded by gorgeous views of the snowcapped Gore Mountain Range as the scenic backdrop, I relaxed with a double martini at … Continue reading

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Adoption—making contact with the birth mother by letter

In hindsight, my approach of trying to reach my birth mother by telephone had been unsophisticated and clumsy. It was immature of me to assume Rebecca would confess her sins to a complete stranger. My assumption that she would voluntarily provide … Continue reading

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“Adoption—reconnecting with the lost” —Judith Land, author & adoptee

My very talented mother-in-law Grace O. Ronningen composed this poem when she was eighteen years old. She received a national award for her poetry, and many of her poems were published. Her poem ‘Campfire Glow’ conveys a message to those … Continue reading

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“Adoption—making contact with the birth mother by telephone” —Judith Land, author & adoptee

My first contact with a biological relative was a telephone conversation with a maternal aunt. I found her name in a telephone book. She had the same last name as my birth mother. Pleading with strangers for assistance dredged up … Continue reading

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“Mother Seeks Home for her Babies”

Mrs. Cecile Marsh is looking for a home for her two children, a girl 5 and a boy 3 years old. According to their mother, they are healthy and of happy disposition. “Somewhere in Colorado there is a home waiting … Continue reading

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Is adoption the psychological equivalent of a kidnapping?

“Anaclitic depression is a syndrome occurring in infants, usually after sudden separation from the mothering person. It is a predictable response seen in infants who have been separated from their mothers for prolonged periods of time, resulting in a disruption … Continue reading

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Adoption Search—the history of voluntary adoption registries

“The adoption reunion experience is like water in the desert—scarce, desired, fought for. The adoptive search, when guided by sufficient balance and understanding, can enable a Seeker to become well in an age of illness and anxiety.” —Jean Madeline Paton, … Continue reading

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“I am not your real mother—you were adopted?” Judith Land

“Come sit beside me on the couch. I have something important to tell you,” Rosella unexpectedly blurted while nervously extending her hand. It was her eighth birthday. Judy hesitatingly complied. Her senses were heightened in response to Rosella’s uncharacteristic manner of … Continue reading

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