What did you say after you said hello to your birth parents?

It was apparent to my birth parents from the beginning that I wanted a continuing relationship to get to know them better in the future. Sometimes, warm hugs and silence translate our deepest feelings toward others better than words.

I learned that life is about making choices and building relationships—actions that can only happen if you take the initiative. The outcome of an adoption search may rest in the hands of fate or prayer. Still, desire and passion provide the fuel to overcome self-doubt and internal resistance to assure desired long-term outcomes. Relatives don’t automatically make the best friends, and connecting with others is often an emotional challenge. Still, I was determined to establish a meaningful relationship and continue a positive dialogue with them to discover the answers to the questions I was seeking.

Ultimately, my efforts’ positive emotional benefits and rewards are boundless. 

Judith Land, Author of Adoption Detective: Memoir of an Adopted Child














“This is an extraordinarily riveting story. I was immediately drawn in and could not put the book down. The narrative is structured so that the suspense never lets up as the discovery process unfolds. There are many surprises, redemptive moments, and amazing human complexities revealed throughout. As an adoptive parent, I really valued the author’s honest reflections on her struggles and her serious and thoughtful critique of the institution of adoption.” Anne Bernard Becker



About Judith Land

Judith Land lives in Colorado and Arizona with husband and coauthor Martin Land. Judith is a former nurse, retail shop owner, college instructor and avid outdoor person. Her book "Adoption Detective: Memoir of an Adopted Child" is a true story detailing the journey of Judith Romano, foster child and adoptee, as she discovers fragments of her background, and then sets out to solve the mystery as an adult. She has reached readers in 192 countries. "Mothers and fathers everywhere in the world need to understand that children are forever and always." --Judith Land
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