“Everything of value I have ever done scared the heck out of me—overcoming the fear and anxiety of college graduation, qualifying as a nurse, getting married, having a baby, opening a retail business, teaching at the college level, skiing in the Alps, and public speaking were difficult challenges to overcome—but meeting my birth parents for the first time was the greatest fear I ever faced.” —Judith Land, author & adoptee
My knees were weak. My heart was pumping. My chest was throbbing. Rebecca graciously opened the front door to her house, smiled broadly, and leaned forward to welcome me with open arms and a big kiss on the cheek. “You must be my daughter Judy?”
“You must be my birth mother, Rebecca?”
I was carrying a small package of Italian candy coated almonds as a hostess gift and token of appreciation. In our clumsy nervousness the handoff was somehow botched. The bag of candied almonds dropped onto the tile floor and flew off in every direction, wildly spinning and bouncing into the hall closet, den and living room, bouncing off walls and careening under chairs, bookcases and sofa tables. One of them amusingly bounced into my brother’s pants cuff.
Impulsively, Rebecca and I simultaneously swooped down to pick them up and cracked our heads together. The family dog barked with excitement as he wildly twirled around knocking me over with his backside. I felt like a turtle tipped over on its shell. The long awaited cinematic Hallmark moment and sentimental Disney story I had visualized all my life was shattered. The romantic formality of our long anticipated adoption reunion was turned into a slapstick comedy of epic proportions. Pandemonium ensued. Facing each other on our hands and knees, our noses inches apart, I rolled myself back to an upright position. Rebecca smiled graciously. Disregarding my carefully written speech, lengthy rehearsals, and high expectations, the entire family simultaneously burst into raucous laughter. Rebecca and I stood up smiling and holding hands. We hugged. We had an instant connection.
Between laughs, everyone agreed—they had just witnessed the most botched mother and daughter adoption reunion of all time.
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