Category Archives: Books

Adoption—using an intermediary to contact the birth mother

“Deciding how to contact my birth mother presented a dilemma. She lived far away in another state. I had four choices—I could fly across the country and attempt to meet with her in person; I could call her on the … Continue reading

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Adoption—making contact with the birth mother by letter

In hindsight, my approach of trying to reach my birth mother by telephone had been unsophisticated and clumsy. It was immature of me to assume Rebecca would confess her sins to a complete stranger. My assumption that she would voluntarily provide … Continue reading

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“Adoption—reconnecting with the lost” —Judith Land, author & adoptee

My very talented mother-in-law Grace O. Ronningen composed this poem when she was eighteen years old. She received a national award for her poetry, and many of her poems were published. Her poem ‘Campfire Glow’ conveys a message to those … Continue reading

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Adoption Search—the history of voluntary adoption registries

“The adoption reunion experience is like water in the desert—scarce, desired, fought for. The adoptive search, when guided by sufficient balance and understanding, can enable a Seeker to become well in an age of illness and anxiety.” —Jean Madeline Paton, … Continue reading

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“I am not your real mother—you were adopted?” Judith Land

“Come sit beside me on the couch. I have something important to tell you,” Rosella unexpectedly blurted while nervously extending her hand. It was her eighth birthday. Judy hesitatingly complied. Her senses were heightened in response to Rosella’s uncharacteristic manner of … Continue reading

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“Adoption is a Virtuous Act”

Adopted parents are virtuous by nature. They exhibit a genuine sense of compassion and a natural love of others. The adopted parent understands and validates the profound, and has the skill to encourage love to grow. They love someone else’s … Continue reading

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Adoption: 5-Steps for writing your own adoption story

Life’s journey for individuals who are orphaned, fostered, and adopted appeal to others because their lives are interesting, unpredictable and unique. That is why every adoptee should be encouraged to share their story with others. “There are four kinds of … Continue reading

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“My birth parents 50th wedding anniversary” Judith Land

My birth parents 50th wedding anniversary was a coming-out party and the culmination of a life-long dream come true. I was honored to receive an invitation but nervously wondered if I would be asked to sit at the head table … Continue reading

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“Adoption writer emphasizes smiles, frowns and furrowed brows”

When a writer wants a character to show emotion, they will use smiles, frowns, sighs, shrugs, blushes, glares, or a furrowed brow to outwardly convey reactions to internal responses. Actors use masks to outwardly project comedy, tragedy, delight, happiness, sadness … Continue reading

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Adoption story—”First Lilac Club” was an instant success! Judith Land | Adoption Detective

“The compact space under the lilac bushes provided a secure environment where the girls felt relaxed and comfortable. The close proximity of the seating arrangement facilitated intimacy, whispering, and the sharing of secrets—only then did Judith Romano decide to tell … Continue reading

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