“Adoption—the exhilaration of accomplishing something extraordinary”

Judith Land | Adoption Detective

Nothing in reality can match the exhilaration of having accomplished something a little out of the ordinary.

“To live a purpose driven life you must learn that the only way to beat the fear of the unknown is to take the first step. If you listen to the voice of your fears, you’ll live an empty life. But, if you listen to the voice of your heart, you’ll live a remarkable life.”  Judith Land

You can’t sit at home in your pajamas and expect the world to have a sense of purpose and meaning. To live a purpose driven life you must give unconditionally from an open heart without expecting much in return. The reward that you will receive is a sense of purpose and meaning that comes from feeling fulfilled as the result of the autonomous choices you make and the results you achieve. If you want to adopt a child, initiate an adoption search to reconnect with the lost, or form a new relationship, you must leave skepticism, suspicion, mistrust, and doubt behind. You must learn to choose action and accomplishment over idleness and indolence; alertness and enterprise over weakness and surrender; and vigor and vitality over stoppage and laziness.

The fear of what may happen leaves many individuals in a frozen state of mental paralysis and lethargy—an inert emotional condition characterized by depression and melancholic blues resulting from a befuddled sense of genealogical bewilderment—afraid that by carelessly entering new and unexplored territory they will upset the lifestyle and relationships they already have. Apathy prevents them from taking action because they are afraid of what might happen if they invite a stranger into their home. They fear that meddling in the affairs of others may land them in hot water. They view adoption as overly complicated and may lack the will to initiate an adoption search and reunion because they view these situations as high-risk events that may expose something that is undesirable with unforeseen consequences leading to negative life transitions.

To be ecstatically happy, make life an exciting adventure. Dream. Explore. Discover. Show enthusiasm for life. Jump for joy whenever the spirit moves you. Demonstrate that what is inside you is more important than what lies behind you or what is in front of you. Release your cares and worries by celebrating small victories. Let everyone know how good you feel. Know that jumping for joy is the most dramatic way to tell your story—no words are necessary. Work hard to succeed and learn to overcome the barriers that restrict your thinking and prevent you from making your dreams come true. Remember that nothing in reality can match the exhilaration of having accomplished something a little out of the ordinary. After all, the architect of the Universe didn’t build a stairway leading nowhere.

Judith Land


Adoption Detective


Image by painter Donald Zoland

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About Judith Land

Judith Land lives in Colorado and Arizona with husband and coauthor Martin Land. Judith is a former nurse, retail shop owner, college instructor and avid outdoor person. Her book "Adoption Detective: Memoir of an Adopted Child" is a true story detailing the journey of Judith Romano, foster child and adoptee, as she discovers fragments of her background, and then sets out to solve the mystery as an adult. She has reached readers in 192 countries. "Mothers and fathers everywhere in the world need to understand that children are forever and always." --Judith Land
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2 Responses to “Adoption—the exhilaration of accomplishing something extraordinary”

  1. shewrite63 says:

    Reblogged this on Finding Matthew and commented:
    What wonderful words of encouragement.

    I now wonder if I lived in a “frozen state of mental paralysis” for many years. I have recently chosen to listen to the voice in my heart, to act, to live a remarkable life.

    Thank you,


  2. Hi Judith,

    This article has a different tone than the ones I’m used to reading. I’d love to help mothers conceive. Wouldn’t the very best thing?
    And after that writing from the angle of hearing the 2-4 year old crys, babies waiting in their forever home. Unless I missed the entire just Olof this article.

    Sending Love!!!

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