“Adoption reunions and personal confidence”

Judith Land | Adoption Detective | Confidence

“Confidence is the full trust and belief in the power, trustworthiness, and reliability of someone in their ability to succeed. Believing in oneself and our abilities is what leads to self-reliance and self-assurance.”  —Judith Land

Confidence is the state of feeling certain about the truth that leads to positive feelings of self-assurance and trust in our abilities, qualities and judgment that leads to higher self-esteem, feelings of good health, and ways of staying more in touch with others in a social context. When we see value in our own self-worth it helps us act with composure and assertiveness and feel more at peace with the world. Confidence is what helps us find the strength of mind to understand the psychology of human destiny that demonstrates how anyone can improvise or change their life script to make a happy ending.

Preparation for an adoption reunion requires an advanced understanding of complex issues, human behavior, performance and attitudes. The ability to recognize some aspects of ourselves in others, to know someone we look like with similar personalities, physical characteristics, talents, and intellect, are intriguing to many adoptees but overcoming personal fears, uncompromising bureaucracies, foreign languages, and cultural differences requires fortitude in the face of adversity and the courage to overcome the things that frighten us. Opportunities to meet a biological parent or child are unique once-in-a-lifetime opportunities that require forethought and groundwork. The process of conducting an adoption search requires resilience to conquer adversity, perseverance to overcome injustice, and persistence to achieve our goals and make our dreams come true. Reunions have the potential to enhance the lives of many adoptees, even if sustained relationships aren’t possible, but without sufficient confidence the fearful individual may never achieve their objective. Confidence is what gives us the strength of mind to understand the psychology of human destiny that demonstrates how we can improvise or change our life script to make a happy ending—but in order to achieve success we also need to learn what to say after we say, “Hello!”

Confidence is a universal and timeless human attribute associated with success worldwide in all aspects of life. Positive results are achieved when we have the confidence to be true to ourselves; we are proactive; we envision what we want in the future; we seek first to understand and then to be understood; we combine the strength of others; and we seek continuous improvement and positive outcomes.

Judith Land




About Judith Land

Judith Land lives in Colorado and Arizona with husband and coauthor Martin Land. Judith is a former nurse, retail shop owner, college instructor and avid outdoor person. Her book "Adoption Detective: Memoir of an Adopted Child" is a true story detailing the journey of Judith Romano, foster child and adoptee, as she discovers fragments of her background, and then sets out to solve the mystery as an adult. She has reached readers in 192 countries. "Mothers and fathers everywhere in the world need to understand that children are forever and always." --Judith Land
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3 Responses to “Adoption reunions and personal confidence”

  1. Sandy Davis says:

    each other is different.. nothing you write strikes a chord in me with any relativity to re unions at all.Whats all that got to do with Adoption Reunion? I went through it myself… just read what you wrote, read like it was taken out of a book…? each adoption re union is different, how people react to

    • Judith Land says:

      Sandy, Thanks for the feedback; I agree that every adoption is unique; every individual has a different perspective. I had separate reunions with a cousin; my sister; my father; my mother; aunts and uncles; a brother, second sister and their in laws; as well as my foster parents. Each reunion was highly emotional and heartfelt. I later found my adoptive father living in another state under an assumed name married to another woman before he had divorced my adoptive mother. My mother was also adopted. Just this year, I arranged reunions with several of her relatives that were very emotional. I have also encouraged and supported other adoptees hoping to reconnect with their lost. I have learned many remarkable things about people, human nature, and psychology from firsthand experience. All of these noteworthy experiences have made life memorable and exceptional and expanded my thinking about family relationships. I share my perspectives on adoption issues with others because I think they have value. On my website you will find numerous blogs on adoption issues and I hope that on further review you will sense my passion, feel my enthusiasm, and learn to appreciate my personal experiences and perspectives. My story is recorded in the book “Adoption Detective: Memoir of an Adopted Child”. It is a true story. The events are real and many of the spoken words were transcribed directly from recordings.

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