Adoption—can happiness be learned?

Nearly everyone associated with adoption experiences temporary feelings of uncertainty and vagueness in their lives. Nobody is born with a sense of cheerfulness and lightheartedness but the one-thing experts agree on is that everyone can learn how to bring more meaning and satisfaction into our lives. The path to happiness requires you to be accepting and loving of yourself, just the way you are, regardless of your background and the lingering memories of the past. Choose gratitude and appreciation to make the most of life by seeing the bright side and always remember that optimists are healthier, happier, have more fulfilling relationships, and live longer. Judith Land

Federico_Andreotti | Judith Land | Adoption Detective

La lettera d’amore (the love letter) by Federico Andreotti. “Perhaps, the world would be a happier place if more people sent old fashioned heartwarming handwritten love letters on irresistible perfumed stationary as proof of their love.” Judith Land

Yes, happiness can be learned. Our involvement in activities has a direct bearing on our state of mind, level of joy, amusement, satisfaction, gratification, euphoria, and triumph. Happiness is an emotional state largely derived from encountering unexpected serendipitous events, seeing a significant other, and when basking in the acceptance and praise of others. Enjoying tasty food and warm baths bring us pleasure. Participating in challenging activities promotes engagement. Belonging to something bigger than self and participating in a quest provides meaning to our lives. The realization of tangible goals triggers a positive sense of accomplishment and well-being. Staying healthy is a key factor for remaining cheerful, lighthearted, and living longer. Social ties and relationships are a reliable indicator of a good nature and a merry disposition.

Heredity determines to some degree our level of joyfulness (based on twin studies) but life circumstances and situations can equally influence our personality and our level of exuberance. The remainder is subject to self-control based on the activities we pursue and the friends that surround us. Ultimately, our sense of well-being, contentment, quality of life, and the opportunity to flourish are the sum of all the decisions we make and the lifestyle we choose. Smiles and jubilance are elicited when our curiosity is cultivated, our expectations are reasonable and attainable, and we practice the art of forgiveness. Our mood and level of contentment are enhanced when linked to competence, autonomy, relatedness to others, and success in the workplace. There is a positive link between happiness, spirituality and religious commitment.

Innate forces beyond their basic needs drive ‘self-actualizing’ people to explore and strive to reach their full human potential. As a result, they have more opportunities for peak experiences, profound moments of love, understanding, and happiness, that makes them feel more whole, alive, self sufficient, and connected with others. Understanding and sharing the building blocks that are the foundation of true happiness are ultimately how we learn to improve ourselves and help other wandering souls overcome the strife of separation and build a better life.

“Sustainable happiness is achieved when we learn to manufacture our own sunshine.”

Judith Land



hyväksyminen | antagande | adopsjon | vedtagelse | adoptie | Verabschiedung | ग्रहण


About Judith Land

Judith Land lives in Colorado and Arizona with husband and coauthor Martin Land. Judith is a former nurse, retail shop owner, college instructor and avid outdoor person. Her book "Adoption Detective: Memoir of an Adopted Child" is a true story detailing the journey of Judith Romano, foster child and adoptee, as she discovers fragments of her background, and then sets out to solve the mystery as an adult. She has reached readers in 192 countries. "Mothers and fathers everywhere in the world need to understand that children are forever and always." --Judith Land
This entry was posted in Adoption, Children, Life, Parenting and tagged , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.

2 Responses to Adoption—can happiness be learned?

  1. eagoodlife says:

    “a merry disposition” – I like the sound of that!! In today’s culture of self-help, forgiveness is sometimes overrated in my view and that of others like Jeff Brown. Self-forgiveness is certainly useful for most adoptees. Lovely painting!

  2. gooddaytotry says:

    spoken by someone who lost a child never

Leave a Reply

Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.