“Adoption—Life is a Dance!”

“Dancing is a way of enjoying every step of the journey, even if it’s with your own shadow, or in front of a mirror.” —Judith Land, Adoptee

ABC's "Dancing With the Stars" - Season 18 - Week Ten

Life is a dance. We learn as we go, whether we lead or follow. Look at them sway with it, roll in the hay with it, wow (huh)! Younger than spring again, feeling that zing again, wow (huh)! He goes to, she goes fro. He goes fast, she goes slow. He goes left, she goes right, and now she’s nowhere in sight.

“Dancing with the Stars” is an American dance competition that has aired on ABC television for twenty years. Each dance couple competes for judges’ points and audience votes. What if our daily performance was viewed live by a worldwide audience? How would it be rated by a panel of judges and voted on by the public? Would the audience release a cascade of applause? Would they wax lyrical over our style and grace, reward our perseverance, praise our intelligence, and acknowledge our professionalism?

You may be an adoptee or foster child with an emotional need for a curative and breakthrough reality that makes sense out of your disrupted life story. Birth parents tormented by difficult choices may face a sense of loss and overpowering guilt. Adoptive parents struggle to make the right choices. In all cases, everyone needs to remember that life is a dance. We all go at our own pace. Sometimes we lead. Sometimes we follow. Sometimes taking a chance on love brings turtledoves, and sometimes things blow up in our face, and we lose the race. The path to more crying is most often the result of not trying rather than injury, poor health, and withdrawal. If only I knew then what I know now, I wouldn’t feel so hollow. In every situation, there is a time to walk, talk, and even a time to crawl back. Nobody can learn the foxtrot’s long, continuous flowing movements and glide across the dance floor without practical training and rehearsals. Don’t fear what you don’t know; trust your instincts and learn as you go.

Life presents us all with challenges and adversity. Inevitably, everyone struggles at times and experiences the consequences of our shortfalls. Life is a learning opportunity. Hardships and failure are sometimes the way we learn positive lessons. The way we respond to difficulties we encounter and the choices we make is what defines us. Our attitude and how we respond to trying circumstances are how we learn to dance and find our path in life. Trust your instincts and know that inaction is a waste of life. With patience, practice, and maturity, you too can be a champion. Don’t worry about what you don’t know today because life is a dance—we all learn as we go. So, step lively and wisely!

Judith Land


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About Judith Land

Judith Land lives in Colorado and Arizona with husband and coauthor Martin Land. Judith is a former nurse, retail shop owner, college instructor and avid outdoor person. Her book "Adoption Detective: Memoir of an Adopted Child" is a true story detailing the journey of Judith Romano, foster child and adoptee, as she discovers fragments of her background, and then sets out to solve the mystery as an adult. She has reached readers in 192 countries. "Mothers and fathers everywhere in the world need to understand that children are forever and always." --Judith Land
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