Have you ever wished for forgiveness and the opportunity for a new beginning? What if a beautifully wrapped gift box with a large bow arrived on your doorstep—the most powerful gift you have ever received. Inside is a note from God offering a new beginning, a second chance to do something important over again. What would you chose?
Everyone encounters moral dilemmas in their lives. We all struggle to make the appropriate choices. It is a fact of life that we don’t always make the best decisions. Relationships end for the wrong reasons because we are misunderstood, give up too easily, or take the easy way out. Relinquishment of a biological child is a moral dilemma and major decision that immediately comes to mind. Altering life’s trajectory has infinite consequences for the adopted child and collateral consequences for everyone concerned. Predicting the future is a futile endeavor. There are no assurances that relinquishment will automatically create a better life for the child. Abandonment conceals the truth, alters family relationships and changes the child’s heritage forever. Suffering in silence and longing for affirmative responses as they ponder the fate of their biological child are afflictions birth parents habitually share in common. We all have difficulty foreseeing the future and comprehending the consequences of our actions. That’s why adoption causes so much hand-wringing, second-guessing, self-doubts and insecurities. Accepting responsibility for feeding someone else’s child creates burdensome financial responsibilities with irrevocable legal ramifications for the adoptive parents and psychological wounds to the child. For all these reasons, it is normal to continually reassess, reconsider, and second-guess the consequences of adoption in response to changing conditions and altered circumstances.
Time passes quickly. Those who know they have failed to go in the right direction should know that it is never too late to redeem oneself. Seeking the chance to right a wrong and striving to transform our lives by aiming for a brighter future is a worthy goal. We all know how painful it feels to be misunderstood, the subject of gossip, bullied, ridiculed or judged by others. No one’s perfect. The idea that people deserve a second chance in life is an important American value. Americans are a distinctly optimistic people more inclined to ridicule social conditions, poverty and discrimination than blame individuals for awkward situations. American culture has always rejected the notion that there are inherently bad people. Prevailing attitudes assume that if conditions are altered, most people will be able to lead good lives. With maturity and experience comes wisdom and an ever growing sense of forgiveness. It is a commonly held belief that individuals willing to reshape themselves by fostering behavioral changes that promote personal responsibility, healthy relationships, and positive contributions to society should be forgiven and allowed a second chance. Adoptive parents skeptical about the value of reunions may perceive adoptees as “forever children” that require lifelong support and supervision. They continue to exert dominion over them and reluctantly adjust to the idea that adoptees eventually grow to become mature adults with their own set of principles and moral beliefs.
Striving for a brighter future can only be accomplished by hard work and commitment. To live a purpose driven life we must clearly define our goals; increase self-motivation; establish a positive work ethic; manage stress; become financially literate; learn to effectively communicate; resolve conflicts; and demonstrate leadership. Humanism and enlightenment are the keys to an improved lifestyle, higher moral values and the opportunity for a better life. Europeans who found themselves in legal, financial, social, religious and political trouble came to this country because they were assured of the right to begin an entirely new life. Forgiveness is a profound tenet of Christianity—individuals seeking social forgiveness are fully redeemed and given another chance to begin again. Giving someone the gift of a second chance in life is a blessing and a profound act of kindness.