I pity the infants in group homes, hospitals, orphanages and wards haplessly placed in the back row who have a distinct disadvantage over the babies in the front row who naturally receive more attention. The separation of a defenseless baby from their mother’s breast is a distressingly traumatic event that traumatizes the child. The devastating effects of maternal deprivation and social isolation on infants is staggering. For as long as they have existed, orphanages have had alarmingly high death rates. Fearing contagious disease, attempts to keep orphanages sterile often involves isolating children from each other by doing things like placing sheets and glass panels between their cribs. Yet, children raised in orphanages continue to contract all types of illnesses and remain scrawny and show obvious psychological, cognitive and behavioral problems, and tend to be less curious, less playful, and more subject to infections.
Psychologists have long known that separation from their mothers in the first six months of life can produce severe deficits in virtually every aspect of behavior from which the child may never recover. Scientists have described the tender intimacy of the attachment between mother and child as a sacred mystical instinct essential for the normal growth and survival of the child. They have provided conclusive evidence that love is vital for normal childhood development and revealed the long-term devastation caused by deprivation, leading to profound psychological and emotional distress. The catastrophic effects of sensory and social deprivation at certain critical periods in early childhood can have on children’s subsequent development can be devastating. Experiments have shown beyond any doubt that social interactions with other humans are essential. When this experience is lacking in infancy deep psychological primal wounds may develop and be exhibited as freezing in fear, blank staring, crouching down, repetitive physical motions, selective mutism and thumb sucking. Psychologists have repeatedly demonstrated the importance of companionship in the early stages of development for normal social and cognitive development.
Psychoanalysts, physicians and scientists have offered irrefutable proof that infants in institutions suffer from a lack of love–that they were missing important parental relationships, which in turn was hurting or even killing them. Research has added scientific legitimacy in favor of psychological parenthood. The permanence associated with adoption has been shown to be far superior to other arrangements when it comes to safeguarding the future mental and emotional well-being of children in need of parents.
Mi-e milă de orfanii nefericite din rândul din spate | 可惜我在後排的不幸孤兒