“Mother Seeks Home for her Babies”

Mrs. Cecile Marsh is looking for a home for her two children, a girl 5 and a boy 3 years old. According to their mother, they are healthy and of happy disposition.

“Somewhere in Colorado there is a home waiting for my boy and girl. All that is needed is to let folks know they are waiting for a home. Persons willing to adopt must be able to give them a good home, good education and care. For many nights I have stayed awake wondering what is to become of my babies. There is just one thing for me to do—that is to give them to someone who can do what is best for them, if I give them up,” Mrs. Marsh explained.

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Adopted child syndrome is a term that has been used to explain behaviors in adopted children that are claimed to be related to their adoptive status. Specifically, these behaviors include problems in bonding, attachment disorders and lack of respect of authority.

In response to the newspaper article, a childless couple living in Western Colorado agreed to adopt both children. “There are many chores to do on our ranch, and the extra hands will provide us with many positive benefits,” they explained.

Recounting their adoption experience many years later, both children remained forever perplexed by the unexpected change in their lives. “The reason we were abandoned by our biological parents was never made clear to us. The incident traumatized us, negatively effected our personalities, and psychological well-being, and created life-long emotional scars that were difficult to overcome. Our parents were not poor, so we never understood why this happened to us. We were traumatized and heart-broken by the loss of our parents and the sudden change in our surroundings. We relentlessly clung to each other as brother and sister for comfort and safety. We dealt with the psychological and emotional scars as best we could, but the haunting effects of the incident were life-long. The experience of being willfully abandoned by our real parents was highly emotional. Our adoptive parents were good people, who treated us kindly, and with respect, but the reasons for the abrupt change in surroundings was beyond our comprehension,” they explained.

A copy of the newspaper article containing the photograph of the two children was brought to my attention by my friend Mary, the daughter of the 3-year-old boy in the picture. Looking at the picture of her father made her very sad. I was fascinated by what she had to tell me. We discussed her father’s story at length, the lifetime of heartache it created, and some of the lessons learned. Mary’s father believed that to some degree adoption handicaps the mental and emotional health and well-being of children, leaving adoptees vulnerable to developmental, behavioral, and academic problems. He viewed adoption as a risk factor for some behaviors modern psychologists refer to as the ‘adopted child syndrome’.

“My father and his sister went to their graves never knowing why they had been abandoned by their birth parents. They remained inseparable, even as adults, and when one died, the other one died several weeks later. I buried them in the same cemetery side by side,” Mary lamented.

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About Judith Land

Judith Land lives in Colorado and Arizona with husband and coauthor Martin Land. Judith is a former nurse, retail shop owner, college instructor and avid outdoor person. Her book "Adoption Detective: Memoir of an Adopted Child" is a true story detailing the journey of Judith Romano, foster child and adoptee, as she discovers fragments of her background, and then sets out to solve the mystery as an adult. "Mothers and fathers everywhere in the world need to understand that children are forever and always." --Judith Land
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