“Adoption—troubled by circumstances or the behavior of others?” Judith Land

Adoptees face a unique set of psychological and emotional issues. Suffering in silence the tragic effects of the primal wound, genealogical bewilderment, a lack of a comprehensive self-identity leading to low self-esteem, and other afflictions unique to adoption are what many adoptees habitually share in common. When you see one of them feeling hopelessly adrift, troubled by circumstances or the behavior of others, reach across the abyss, lend a helping hand and a heart to listen. Even a simple hug can work miracles.

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“When you find someone in distress, reach across the abyss to give a helping hand. Quality relationships are important to healthy living and child rearing but some issues can only be resolved at the highest level. Ultimately, the emotional depths of some moments in life are so overwhelming that they can only be resolved by God. Seek to find the words you already know in thought, and when you are in your lowest emotional states of mind, and there is no one there to help you overcome distress and discouragement and breach the rift, you will find it therapeutic to humbly direct your accepted wisdom to God.” —Judith Land

If you are an adoptee, your heart knows in the silence of the nights the secrets of the days, but your heart’s knowledge is difficult to put into words. The depth of your feelings and emotions present a dilemma because they are boundless and unquantifiable. There is no scale to measure your degree of sensitivity, the intensity of your suffering and joys, or the stamina and resiliency needed to overcome impediments. Life’s trajectory is neither constant or predictable. Life unfolds slowly like a flower opening one pedal at a time to reveal its beauty and divulge its treasure. To live a healthy lifestyle we must learn to resolve our troubles and stay the course, and when we find our path, we must stay focused and go forward either swiftly or quietly limping toward our goal, just as some rivers rush in a torrent or peacefully meander and linger before finding the ocean.

Everyone has a role and purpose in life. Responding to each life crisis is an opportunity for creative change to grow to your full potential. Most of us suffer times of uncertainty, predictable crises, that are ‘normal’ in human development. We all experience situations that leave us feeling hurt and baffled; when this happens we have difficulty objectively viewing those around us, and forgiving their behavior. When you find yourself struggling with your problems and feeling quite alone and abnormal, it can be greatly reassuring to find that others are quietly suffering too, and even more so to find that they share the same crippling psychological afflictions, misfortunes, and challenges.

To make the best of life we sometimes need to let go of our old roles to find a renewal of purpose. When we understand the actions of others that were previously taken for granted, including the unconscious mind, it is easier to fathom reasons for the disagreeable nature of others. Life has many changes and we have many choices. Our ability for coping with life’s tribulations increases over time based on our improved understanding of normal changes in human perspective. Frames of reference, points of view, and changes in perspective occur as we pass through each new life passage. Performance and understanding, as well as our ability to forgive, increases with age and experience. Adoptees view the world differently following each new decade of life. Our perspectives and understanding of our life and circumstances evolves and is significantly different when we are in our teen’s, young adulthood, mid-life and beyond. To live a healthy lifestyle we adoptees must anticipate changes as best we can, set reasonable goals for the future, and aim to become the best we can.

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Adopción Historia: En última instancia, las profundidades emocionales de algunos momentos en la vida son tan abrumadores que sólo pueden ser resueltos por Dios.

Judith Land Quotes on YouTube:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AVrc3UsY-_Q

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About Judith Land

Judith Land lives in Colorado and Arizona with husband and coauthor Martin Land. Judith is a former nurse, retail shop owner, college instructor and avid outdoor person. Her book "Adoption Detective: Memoir of an Adopted Child" is a true story detailing the journey of Judith Romano, foster child and adoptee, as she discovers fragments of her background, and then sets out to solve the mystery as an adult. "Mothers and fathers everywhere in the world need to understand that children are forever and always." --Judith Land
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4 Responses to “Adoption—troubled by circumstances or the behavior of others?” Judith Land

  1. Pingback: https://judithland.wordpress.com/2013/06/19/troubled-by-circumstances-or-the-behavior-of-others/ | tummum's Blog

  2. towardchange says:

    Reblogged this on Parents Rights Blog and commented:
    If you are an adoptee, your heart knows in the silence of the nights the secrets of the days, but your heart’s knowledge is difficult to put into words. The depth of your feelings and emotions present a dilemma because they are boundless and unquantifiable. There is no scale to measure your degree of sensitivity, the intensity of your suffering and joys, or the stamina and resiliency needed to overcome impediments.

  3. Pingback: “Adoption—forgiveness and second chances” | Adoption Detective | A Novel By Judith Land

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