“I was surprised to learn that I had been nefariously issued false birth and baptismal certificates when I was adopted to conceal my true identity and prevent me from ever reuniting with my birth parents.” —Judith Land
Striving for well being and making sense of one’s life is at the core of human nature. Knowing your genealogical history is an inalienable and entitled right of every person that has far-reaching implications for behavior, motivation and relationships. The loss of this tradition is a deprivation, which may result in the stunting of emotional development. Life goals develop and are influenced by our perceptions of what is feasible based on our uniqueness, individuality, character, temperament, talents and self-identity. Awareness of self increases consciousness and comprehension and affects how one’s progress toward future goals are evaluated, monitored and pursued. Knowledge is essential for grasping the significance of historical events, deciphering the narrative, and unraveling the backstory. The closer one is to their ideal self and reality, the happier they will be.
Library shelves are filled with books on personality, cognitive development, sociology, family studies, anthropology, neuroscience and psychology. The conscious recognition of the self as having a unique identity, skills, abilities, hobbies, behavior conduct, romantic appeal, and physical appearance are the basis for the emergence of a true self-identity. Every individual has a unique character, personality, distinctiveness, uniqueness, disposition, humor, temperament, and independence. Fundamentally, self-understanding is the ability to understand the motives behind one’s own actions and reactions. It is a necessary condition for developing a true sense of one’s inner being, soul, and character—but what happens at maturity when an adoptee comes to the realization that they are merely an actor on the stage of life, an impostor wearing someone else’s clothes, and playing the role of a person they were forced to be?
“Adoptees suffering from the stress of genealogical bewilderment have difficulty knowing who they really are because they have no basis for assessing their own potential. The development of selfhood is a crucial building block for self-esteem and respect but an adoptee’s struggle to achieve a comprehensible and consistent backstory that makes sense of a disrupted life is often a daunting task when deviant elements of the past and evidence of a major crossroads in the rear view mirror are absent. Ultimately, a sense of continuity of a coherent past and a present that is consistent and understood are essential components of the process of identity formation.” —Judith Land
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