“For adoptees life is best when shared!” Judith Land

“It would be difficult or even impossible for many adoptees to launch and complete a successful adoption search and reunion without the unwavering support and assistance of a loving spouse, friend, mentor, counselor, mediator or spiritual guide.” —Judith Land

“My adoption search brought us closer as a married couple despite the disruption it created in our lives. My enthusiasm for finding my roots was contagious, and Martin became entirely committed to helping me. I couldn’t imagine myself moving forward without his assistance, advice and loving support. The world should know that he helped me succeed in business and life as a detective, writer and wife.” Judith Land

Almost everything of lasting value in civilization has its roots in the family, which is the structural basis of society. A good spouse is a person of good character and substance. They are unselfish, kind and benevolent. They express joy in the marital journey by remaining perpetually optimistic and steadfastly focused on the happiness and welfare of the other person—an optimist with a team spirit who recognizes what is at stake and best for the family based on high expectations that good things will happen. They don’t fear the unknown or blame circumstances. They have a dream worth following and their vision of a positive future is contagious. They empower others and encourage spiritual growth by seeking to liberate rather than control. They keep communication channels open, and respond skillfully when asked for guidance, encouragement and motivation.

A marriage that is enduring is the result of an arduous evolutionary struggle to define individual roles and responsibilities. When relationships are based on mutual respect and understanding, it is easier to develop a positive character based on meaningful principles and eternally worthwhile values. When there is a high level of trust, challenges and difficulties are easier to overcome, enthusiasm soars; supportive thoughts bloom; results are easier to achieve; and individuals are more likely to mature, prosper and thrive. Happiness and contentment are the perennial effect and long-lasting consequence.

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About Judith Land

Judith Land lives in Colorado and Arizona with husband and coauthor Martin Land. Judith is a former nurse, retail shop owner, college instructor and avid outdoor person. Her book "Adoption Detective: Memoir of an Adopted Child" is a true story detailing the journey of Judith Romano, foster child and adoptee, as she discovers fragments of her background, and then sets out to solve the mystery as an adult. She has reached readers in 192 countries. "Mothers and fathers everywhere in the world need to understand that children are forever and always." --Judith Land
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4 Responses to “For adoptees life is best when shared!” Judith Land

  1. rodneymbliss says:

    Thanks for liking my blog. I rarely talk about adoption since it’s a business blog. In addition to my 10 children who were adopted, my sister adopted three, my younger brother adopted four and my older brother and I were adopted by our step father. Adoption is a very important part of our family story.

    • Judith Land says:

      Adopted parents are virtuous by nature. They have the habit of goodness and possess a common grace and willingly achieve results through human effort with the knowledge that virtue is its own reward. They exhibit a genuine sense of compassion and a natural love of others. The adopted parent understands and validates the profound, and has the skill to encourage love to grow. Sharing their home with an orphaned, fostered, abused and neglected child is not for the weak of spirit, or the easily wounded. Their parental instincts help them understand and appreciate the situation that brought an abandoned child into their lives making them parents. Being an adopted parent is who they are, and what they do. It is their calling. I pray for those who sacrifice their own lives to help others in desperate need of assistance; young parents everywhere in the world in need of spiritual guidance, financial assistance, and psychological support; individuals in need of supporting family relationships, a simple helping hand, and sentimental love; and the unfortunate child, banished from their mother’s arms and jettisoned into oblivion, whose life’s trajectory is forever altered, simply because he or she was born at an inconvenient time.

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