“It would be difficult or even impossible for many adoptees to launch and complete a successful adoption search and reunion without the unwavering support and assistance of a loving spouse, friend, mentor, counselor, mediator or spiritual guide.” —Judith Land
Almost everything of lasting value in civilization has its roots in the family, which is the structural basis of society. A good spouse is a person of good character and substance. They are unselfish, kind and benevolent. They express joy in the marital journey by remaining perpetually optimistic and steadfastly focused on the happiness and welfare of the other person—an optimist with a team spirit who recognizes what is at stake and best for the family based on high expectations that good things will happen. They don’t fear the unknown or blame circumstances. They have a dream worth following and their vision of a positive future is contagious. They empower others and encourage spiritual growth by seeking to liberate rather than control. They keep communication channels open, and respond skillfully when asked for guidance, encouragement and motivation.
A marriage that is enduring is the result of an arduous evolutionary struggle to define individual roles and responsibilities. When relationships are based on mutual respect and understanding, it is easier to develop a positive character based on meaningful principles and eternally worthwhile values. When there is a high level of trust, challenges and difficulties are easier to overcome, enthusiasm soars; supportive thoughts bloom; results are easier to achieve; and individuals are more likely to mature, prosper and thrive. Happiness and contentment are the perennial effect and long-lasting consequence.