“Adoption search and reunion—the exhilaration of accomplishing something out of the ordinary”

“To live a purpose driven life you must learn that the only way to beat the fear of the unknown is to take the first step. If you listen to the voice of your fears, you’ll live an empty life. But, if you listen to the voice of your heart, you’ll live a remarkable life.”  —Judith Land

Some individuals are intimidated by the sport of skiing. They fear ski lifts suspended high above jagged rocky crevices and the inherent risk of sliding downhill at high speeds. Yet, most skiers will claim that nothing can match the delightful thrills and joy of skiing on a crisp, clear, winter day in gorgeous mountain scenery and the arousing euphoric sense of bliss and jubilation that is evoked. Perhaps, nothing in reality can match the exhilaration of having accomplished something a little out of the ordinary.

The fear of what they may discover leaves many adoptees in a frozen state of mental paralysis—an inert emotional condition characterized by melancholic blues resulting from a befuddled sense of genealogical bewilderment—afraid of losing what they already have by carelessly entering and exploring new and unfamiliar territory. They think they might get in trouble and can’t take action because they assume an adoption search is a high-risk event leading to a major life transition.

You can’t just sit at home in your pajamas and expect the world to have a sense of purpose and meaning. To live a ‘purpose driven life’ you must give unconditionally from an open heart without expecting anything in return. The only reward that comes from giving from an open heart is that sense of purpose and meaning that comes from feeling fulfilled from what you do. My advice is to make life an exciting adventure. Work hard to succeed and learn to overcome the barriers that restrict your thinking and prevent you from making your dreams come true. After all, the architect of the Universe didn’t build a stairway leading nowhere.

Judith Land


About Judith Land

Judith Land lives in Colorado and Arizona with husband and coauthor Martin Land. Judith is a former nurse, retail shop owner, college instructor and avid outdoor person. Her book "Adoption Detective: Memoir of an Adopted Child" is a true story detailing the journey of Judith Romano, foster child and adoptee, as she discovers fragments of her background, and then sets out to solve the mystery as an adult. She has reached readers in 192 countries. "Mothers and fathers everywhere in the world need to understand that children are forever and always." --Judith Land
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