“To live a purpose driven life you must learn that the only way to beat the fear of the unknown is to take the first step. If you listen to the voice of your fears, you’ll live an empty life. But, if you listen to the voice of your heart, you’ll live a remarkable life.” —Judith Land
The fear of what they may discover leaves many adoptees in a frozen state of mental paralysis—an inert emotional condition characterized by melancholic blues resulting from a befuddled sense of genealogical bewilderment—afraid of losing what they already have by carelessly entering and exploring new and unfamiliar territory. They think they might get in trouble and can’t take action because they assume an adoption search is a high-risk event leading to a major life transition.
You can’t just sit at home in your pajamas and expect the world to have a sense of purpose and meaning. To live a ‘purpose driven life’ you must give unconditionally from an open heart without expecting anything in return. The only reward that comes from giving from an open heart is that sense of purpose and meaning that comes from feeling fulfilled from what you do. My advice is to make life an exciting adventure. Work hard to succeed and learn to overcome the barriers that restrict your thinking and prevent you from making your dreams come true. After all, the architect of the Universe didn’t build a stairway leading nowhere.