“Adoption is a Virtuous Act”

Adopted parents are virtuous by nature. They exhibit a genuine sense of compassion and a natural love of others. The adopted parent understands and validates the profound, and has the skill to encourage love to grow. They love someone else’s child, but call him or her their own. Sharing their home with an orphaned, fostered, abused and neglected child is not for the weak of spirit, or the easily wounded. Their parental instincts help them understand and appreciate the situation that brought an abandoned child into their lives making them parents. Being an adopted parent is who they are, and what they do. It is their calling.

Adopted parents have the habit of goodness. They do not seek immortal glory. They possess a common grace and willingly achieve results through human effort with the knowledge that virtue is its own reward. They concede the agony, mourning, and the grieving sense of loss and self-inflicted wounds the birth parents may experience later in life. They grasp the numbing sense of grief and mourning for the birth mother and father not there, and with heartfelt emotions they comprehend the deep sense of loss the adopted child endures. They allow the tears to fall, and sooth the primal wound as best they can. They are virtuous because they seek only goodness and what is best for their adopted child.

The Cardinal virtues of Prudence, Justice, Temperance (Restraint), and Courage (Fortitude) were identified by the Greek philosophers Aristotle and Plato, who regarded them as desirable character traits. The Theological virtues, from the letters of St. Paul are Faith, Hope and Charity (Love). The enormous popularity of the Seven Virtues In Catholic catechism in the Middle Ages helped to spread the concept of holy virtue throughout Europe.

Judith Land | Adoption Detective | St. Francis of Assisi

The majority of tourists who visit the town of Assisi in the province of Perugia, Italy, are on a religious pilgrimage to visit the birthplace of St. Francis, the founder of the Franciscan order in 1208. His ideals and example exercised a profound influence upon medieval European culture. Plain speech and simple parables were the hallmarks of his teachings. Throughout his life, he espoused the virtues of being Christlike, while seeking to instill a heartfelt love of God and a pragmatic approach to morality.

The Seven Cardinal Virtues of Prudence, Justice, Fortitude, Temperance, Faith, Hope and Charity (Love) have generally fallen out of common use. The virtues were once universally accepted, and widely taught as admirable human qualities. Life was viewed as the battleground of character formation, and the seven virtues gave civilized individuals a vocabulary to provide a unique dialogue about human history, character and human behavior. By training in virtue, individuals were taught how to prepare to live in a world of suffering, temptation and imbalance. They were taught to seek a virtuous life with all their sensory and spiritual being as an habitual and firm disposition to do good for others. The goal was to be Christlike. The aim was to develop a generous spirit leading to positive concrete actions and a selfless disposition that allows individuals to give the best of themselves and perform good deeds. It was taught that virtue is who we are, as well as what we do. It was believed that the virtuous individual acts with generosity and integrity to give the best of themselves to others. A virtuous character was considered to be at the foundation from which our lives grow. Adopted parents and others who perform good acts and give the best of themselves to others being considered the most virtuous.

Judith Land | Adoption Detective | Adoption Story | Saint Francis of Assisi


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Judith Land lives in Colorado and Arizona with husband and coauthor Martin Land. Judith is a former nurse, retail shop owner, college instructor and avid outdoor person. Her book "Adoption Detective: Memoir of an Adopted Child" is a true story detailing the journey of Judith Romano, foster child and adoptee, as she discovers fragments of her background, and then sets out to solve the mystery as an adult. "Mothers and fathers everywhere in the world need to understand children are forever and always." --Judith Land
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3 Responses to “Adoption is a Virtuous Act”

  1. TaraBara says:

    Thank you for sharing this on my blog Judith. As an unintentional adoptive parent, I wouldn’t classify myself as having the habit of goodness. Sometimes I have to work really hard at finding goodness in myself. It wasn’t my intention to adopt my Caleb, it was not part of the plan for his birth mom to get drugged out & abandon him. But I give thanks everyday that she did, because this boy has opened my heart to love I never knew I was capable of. I hope when he is grown and learns the circumstances that he feels the same.

  2. Pingback: What is National Adoption Day? | Adoption Detective | A Novel By Judith Land

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