“Adoption and self-identity…trying to make sense of one’s life” Judith Land | Adoption Detective

Striving for well-being and making sense of one’s life is at the core of human nature. Knowing one’s true identity has far-reaching implications for behavior, motivation, and relationships. Life goals develop and are influenced by our perceptions of what is feasible based on our uniqueness, individuality, character, temperament, talents and self-identity. Conceptions of self affect how one’s progress towards future goals are evaluated, monitored, and pursued. Awareness and knowledge are the basis of self-understanding. The closer one is to their ideal self, the happier they will be.

“I was surprised to learn that I was issued false birth and baptismal certificates when I was adopted to conceal my real identity and prevent me from ever finding my birth parents.” —Judith Land, author & adoptee

Judith Land | Adoption Detective | Self-identity

Awareness and knowledge of our special skills and abilities; physical characteristics and athleticism; scholastic competence and academic performance; and unique talents are the basis of goal setting and expectations. Self-esteem and happiness are the result of achieving our goals and expectations.

Library shelves are filled with books on personality, cognitive development, sociology, family studies, anthropology, neuroscience and psychology. The conscious recognition of the self as having a unique identity, skills, abilities, hobbies, behavior conduct, romantic appeal, and physical appearance are the basis of self-identity. Every individual has a unique character, identity, individualism, personality, distinctiveness, idiosyncrasy, peculiarity, singularity, uniqueness, disposition, humor, nature, temper, temperament, and independence. Self-understanding is the necessary condition for developing a true sense of self–identity. 

“Adoptees suffering from the stress of genealogical bewilderment have difficulty knowing their true identity because they have no basis for assessing their own potential. The development of an identity is a crucial building block for self-esteem, and an adoptee’s struggle to achieve a coherent story is often a daunting task. The sense of continuity of a past and present that is consistent and reasonably known is necessary for identity formation.” —Judith Land, author & adoptee

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About Judith Land

Judith Land lives in Colorado and Arizona with husband and coauthor Martin Land. Judith is a former nurse, retail shop owner, college instructor and avid outdoor person. Her book "Adoption Detective: Memoir of an Adopted Child" is a true story detailing the journey of Judith Romano, foster child and adoptee, as she discovers fragments of her background, and then sets out to solve the mystery as an adult. "Mothers and fathers everywhere in the world need to understand children are forever and always." --Judith Land
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9 Responses to “Adoption and self-identity…trying to make sense of one’s life” Judith Land | Adoption Detective

  1. lynnemiller says:

    You raise interesting points, Judith. People who are not adopted take their identity for granted. Those of us who are adopted and don’t know anything about our “bio families” have incomplete life stories.

    • Judith Land says:

      Striving for well-being and making sense of one’s life is at the core of human nature. Knowing one’s true identity has far-reaching implications for behavior, motivation, and relationships. Life goals develop and are influenced by our perceptions of what is feasible based on our uniqueness, individuality, character, temperament, talents and self-identity. Conceptions of self affect how one’s progress towards future goals are evaluated, monitored, and pursued. The development of an identity is a crucial building block for self-esteem, and an adoptee’s struggle to achieve a coherent story is often a daunting task. The sense of continuity of a past and present that is consistent and reasonably known is necessary for identity formation. Awareness and knowledge are the basis of self-understanding. The closer one is to their ideal self, the happier they will be. http://judithland.wordpress.com/2013/03/22/self-identity-making-sense-of-ones-life-judith-land-adoption-detective/

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